Being invalidated by BPD/NPD "Friend"

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My "BFF" BPD/NPD got moved into her new apartment. I borrowed a truck from on of my friends and asked a colleague (also friend) to help. None of her "friends" made an appearance. On the  final day told me how much she cared about me and all my help. She also mentioned that she cared as much about my colleague--whom she had known for three days. This was followed by "BFF" telling me later that my colleague had approached her  and  she thought it would be fun if all three of us got together sometime. I didn't pay much attention and thought this was just  an "attention getter" comment. The next day she forwarded me a letter he sent her that was basically asking her out and saying that I had said some things about her that were negative(took words out of context reorder them and told them to her). He neglected to tell her that is is in a failing relationship that isn't over yet. SO I have to call him and have "it our with him" on the phone about respecting private conversations (and taking comments out of context and using them against the person who made them) and that friends shouldn't date friends BFF's or ex's (IMO). He claims he was drunk and was apologetic..really? why don't you pay attention to the relationship you are already in...

What was her role in all of this? He claims he never made FB  contact with her until the long letter he sent her. Why did she tell me all about this and send a copy of the long PM?

Since then I have paid for a brake job on her car and lent her money for inventory for her shop. And she has told me how she can never repay me for all the kindness and help I give her trying to make her life better...whilst at the same time is determined to have a real B/F--and one that will make her look good...

I can do the "financial and emotional maintenance work" but don't fit the profile of what will make her look good to her female friends...so im okay be around for money and nurturance i give her but look elsewhere  for a dinner partner? For a lover?

I feel totally invalidated...what is wrong with me? I am back on SSRI's and anti-anxiety meds and am searching for a psychiatrist/psychologist...I am in contact with some men that I know and we are talking daily and others are checking on me... I am in some kind of emotional wasteland and have lost my way...

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My "BFF" BPD/NPD got moved into her new apartment. I borrowed a truck from on of my friends and asked a colleague (also friend) to help. None of her "friends" made an appearance. On the  final day told me how much she cared about me and all my help. She also mentioned that she cared as much about my colleague--whom she had known for three days. This was followed by "BFF" telling me later that my colleague had approached her  and  she thought it would be fun if all three of us got together sometime. I didn't pay much attention and thought this was just  an "attention getter" comment. The next day she forwarded me a letter he sent her that was basically asking her out and saying that I had said some things about her that were negative(took words out of context reorder them and told them to her). He neglected to tell her that is is in a failing relationship that isn't over yet. SO I have to call him and have "it our with him" on the phone about respecting private conversations (and taking comments out of context and using them against the person who made them) and that friends shouldn't date friends BFF's or ex's (IMO). He claims he was drunk and was apologetic..really? why don't you pay attention to the relationship you are already in...

What was her role in all of this? He claims he never made FB  contact with her until the long letter he sent her. Why did she tell me all about this and send a copy of the long PM?

Since then I have paid for a brake job on her car and lent her money for inventory for her shop. And she has told me how she can never repay me for all the kindness and help I give her trying to make her life better...whilst at the same time is determined to have a real B/F--and one that will make her look good...

I can do the "financial and emotional maintenance work" but don't fit the profile of what will make her look good to her female friends...so im okay be around for money and nurturance i give her but look elsewhere  for a dinner partner? For a lover?

I feel totally invalidated...what is wrong with me? I am back on SSRI's and anti-anxiety meds and am searching for a psychiatrist/psychologist...I am in contact with some men that I know and we are talking daily and others are checking on me... I am in some kind of emotional wasteland and have lost my way...