While this board is such a lifeline, it is great to take a break from it all!
I missed you all, but yes, it was good to be so busy with good things that I didn't have time out to log on! And then to read such sad things when I did log on. It's a hard life for us all, isn't it?
It sounds like she wants you to help her out but isn't willing to let you know anything about her situation or where her money goes...I can relate as that is how my dd operates too.
There is a fair amount of self righteousnness in her position - an unfortunate personality trait. She wants us to know nothing about her life at all. That's it in a nutshell. And that's ok, as long as we know she's alive - that's the bottom line and I don't think there are any concerns in that regard. But if she wants us to be her purse, then there needs to be accountability.
You realise I suppose that this is a great advance for us, dh and I. Now, any communication we talk about and he is listening to what I say and talking a bit more about it. I keep saying to him, 'well if you had read as much as I have and learnt as much as me, then I'd consider what you had to say more. But you didn't so, shut up and listen!' So, now it's just validation and boundaries in the text - no discussion, explanation or justification. And on Sat night, just superficial chit chat with dd, very little directly said to each other.
It's interesting she doesn't want us to know who her T is...
I'm still buoyed by the whole experience and we're off to Tassie tonight (singing in a choir), so out of touch for a week - again!