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Emmy Lou


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« on: July 11, 2012, 01:45:31 PM »
D18 will never say happy anniversary, so I'm going to say it for myself and all the others here who have never heard it from their BPD children. Last night d18 went to ex bf's house, walked in and caught him in bed with another girl. From what I can piece together she freaked and then he freaked, both physically. She has bruises and says he choked her. Getting mucho verbal abuse from her today because I am showing no sympathy for her. Of course we all warned her not to see him. It is my anniversary, and although I am bothered by the drama I'm not letting it affect my day. I deserve it, and so do all of us here! Happy 20 years to us, we have done our best!
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« Reply #1 on: July 11, 2012, 08:01:23 PM »
Happy , happy day to you and your hubby!  How wonderful to have each other through these difficult times!
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« Reply #2 on: July 11, 2012, 08:10:53 PM »
Happy Anniversary, 20 years is awesome. i don't know if my children have BPD or not but could possibly. i will pay closer attention to them after this. I guess it is a learned behavior also?
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« Reply #3 on: July 12, 2012, 07:03:32 PM »
memorial...my d18 has never been diagnosed properly...she refuses therapy sad  But when I joined this website I literally bawled for days because I had found my daughter. I don't know where I would be without this place! But every person is different...I spent hours at first reading and learning and crying over everything. Hope you find answers here as I did. Good luck!
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« Reply #4 on: July 12, 2012, 08:01:32 PM »
Happy 20th to you:)   Doing the right thing
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« Reply #5 on: July 13, 2012, 10:39:47 AM »
Happy, happy 20th to you both! (a little late  rolleyes

@Emmy Lou - I'm the same way. I'm so glad I found this place. The first time I bawled was when I read an article when my d18 was earlier diagnosed as bi-polarII & recurrent major depressive. The article was giving advice as to not what to say to people, i.e telling them their lazy, and some other things. The same words had been coming out of my mouth into my daughter's ears since she was  like 8 years old. The guilt and worthlessness that overcame me was tremendous. I just sat and bawled! My family is still not totally on board with her diagnosis. Most ofthem still think she does things for attention!
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