I've been struggling with trying to figure out why I can't just walk away from my relationship, despite my understanding that its toxic. The few times I've "decided" to, just leads to periods of anxiety and worry about them dating someone else (longest period of NC has been 6 weeks). Periods of NC don't get ANY better as I thought they would. The longer it goes, the harder it became. So I just figured that I'd radically accept who she is, try and set boundaries, and do as much work on myself as I could. After all, this woman must be my soul-mate right?
Well, after reading the article below, I know have a solid understanding of what is actually going on. I had a vague understanding of what it was saying, but it really clarifies why we're simply just attracted to some people who are proven unfit partners for us. Enjoy!http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/finding-love/201205/how-develop-sexual-and-romantic-attraction-people-who-are-good-you