Need to meet new people

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Hey all, I have been on the leaving board for the past month.
I have finally ended this toxic relationship, and I am trying to branch out and meet new people.

I have realized that the few friendships I have left are not very fulfilling for me or the other person.
I mean after going through this relationship, I have learned a lot about myself.

I am in T, but socially isolated...   I am still mixed up from the rs...   but need to start moving on. I need to continue to deal with my emotions, but being an entrepreneur I want to make some new friends who are more empathic and sympathetic, like me 

Don't have an active rs with family and I have grown apart from my old social network through the rs and being an entrepreneur with two business partners that work a lot.

I tried online dating...   but i couldn't follow through with it...   I was too nervous that she was going to be a b****! and i just can't handle that right now...   not on the first try at having a healthy woman in my social circle.

What do you guys suggest, meetups or classes? I have a lot of stress with trying to get my mind back on track for my business but i think isolation and being around people who might not be the best influence on me or connect with me on a meaningful level is adding to my depression.

Anyways i am only 30 days out of the rs...   but i want to start meeting new people so that i have a leg to stand on and i do not feel mixed if my exwBPD comes after me again which she most likely will!

Best

Stoic

[stoic83]

Hey all, I have been on the leaving board for the past month.
I have finally ended this toxic relationship, and I am trying to branch out and meet new people.

I have realized that the few friendships I have left are not very fulfilling for me or the other person.
I mean after going through this relationship, I have learned a lot about myself.

I am in T, but socially isolated...   I am still mixed up from the rs...   but need to start moving on. I need to continue to deal with my emotions, but being an entrepreneur I want to make some new friends who are more empathic and sympathetic, like me 

Don't have an active rs with family and I have grown apart from my old social network through the rs and being an entrepreneur with two business partners that work a lot.

I tried online dating...   but i couldn't follow through with it...   I was too nervous that she was going to be a b****! and i just can't handle that right now...   not on the first try at having a healthy woman in my social circle.

What do you guys suggest, meetups or classes? I have a lot of stress with trying to get my mind back on track for my business but i think isolation and being around people who might not be the best influence on me or connect with me on a meaningful level is adding to my depression.

Anyways i am only 30 days out of the rs...   but i want to start meeting new people so that i have a leg to stand on and i do not feel mixed if my exwBPD comes after me again which she most likely will!

Best

Stoic

[Surnia]

Hi stoic

I can relate with a lot in your post, specially having not a lot of friends and rs within my family are mostly not so satisfying either...  

I try to establish new friends first before I will think about dating...   I attend classes, sometimes organized holiday weeks, spending more time with some of my co-workers.

[Rubies]

I began doing volunteer activities and attending benefit events. 
After years of being devalued it was wonderful to see my homemade jams and pickled foods auction at $10-15 a pint.  And I'm around people who CARE about others. 

Now I'm on the volunteer fire department and have a small part-time job with a helping agency.  I work in fundraising so I get to meet the "givers."

Rebuilding my life completely from the ground up.  When he left I did a complete sweep of sucky people.  As I set firm boundaries and they were met with abuse, more sucky people got swept out. 

I feel too good to ever put up with bad again. 

Learning to trust again is difficult.  Even after 2 years of being out, I am still floored when someone says YES when I ask for help.

[Sunshinegirl3275]

When I divorced several years ago,  I joined a meetup group and met a lot of wonderful people that just wanted to be friends. It was very supportive and often times the groups are full of women that are very very nice!
I hope this helps you to branch out in new directions and enjoy life to the fullest. You deserve that for yourself! 

[Rose Tiger]

Take your dog to the dog park.  Happiest place on earth.  Lots of folks and the dogs are hilarious.

I joined some meetup groups but ignore the meeting emails, not ready for that yet.

I did see folks ice skating on the lake in my favorite little mountain town last weekend.  That looked like a blast.

Google events around town and see what it has to offer.  Cooking classes are fun.  You never know what is out there until you start looking. 

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[stoic83]

Take your dog to the dog park.  Happiest place on earth.  Lots of folks and the dogs are hilarious.

This is an amazing idea...   one i have failed to do several times over. One that benefits both me and my dog. Love it.
There's a great one like a mile away from my house...  

Stoic