In my interactions with my uBPD/Npd H i was always left stunned at what he would accuse me of.
the most bizarre and insane attacks that were so far off my behavioral charts..
things I had never said and would NEVER ever do.
I finally learned to process his rages differently and actually SEEK out the projections he leveled at me-as that helped me identify his internal struggle better, with more precision.
(and realize finally that it has NOTHING to do with me-I just happen to be present and intimate)
It helped reduce both my hurt and my reactions when I realized it was all what HE wanted, meant and thought
that he SENT out like heat seeking missiles towards me.