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« on: August 19, 2013, 12:35:56 AM » |
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If you guys remembered my vacation-planning story (want to holiday with H, he raged after setting the date, turns out he was worried about job; after he got contract renewed I asked again, said if he doesn't want to go then I will go with my dad; he said he doesn't want to go on long vacation, I should go with my dad), I just want to share with you the ridiculous-ness of what H said yesterday. But mostly how I'm glad I have my plans in place so I don't get swayed back and forth by him.
Yesterday, H and I went to the travel agency to book a tour (for me and my dad), simply because we were on our way. Everything sorted. I paid. After we left, H expressed that he wants to go on holiday with me, and if I didn't go with dad during that period we could've gone somewhere. Whoa. I have told him numerous times (in my DEARMAN speech, and before) that my priority is to go with him. I took my days off to holiday with him, but he said he didn't want to go then, so I invited my dad instead, seeing he's getting older and has a surgery this year, and we've never travelled on our own before.
I reiterated this, calmly, because it doesn't make a difference now- H and I will NOT be going on holiday anytime soon (I'm extremely unlikely to get approved for another week off this year), and he said, "Oh I'm so sorry I misunderstood you." I didn't blame him, didn't try to convince him of anything, just said that maybe we could plan for a holiday next year, but inside I'm thinking What the heck? Because what he claimed to think I said was the complete opposite of what I said.
Meanwhile, at least now that I listened to him that first time, I’m still going on holiday- probably not the most ideal (wanted to go with H), but I’m still going to enjoy that!
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