One more thing--if she ever eventually comes out of this, she will let me have it with both barrells on what I did wrong. What happens when she goes into this silent mode, is that she is building up more and more anger by going over and over the situation in her mind. She is basically having a conversation with herself. So, when this ends, it will not be pretty... . She will go into another fit of rage with absurd accusations, THAT ALSO ACTUALLLY HAVE SOME TRUTH mixed in.
Then it happens--I don't know what to say. If I say nothing, then I am avoiding and initiating silence. If I try to make her see the "gray" area that she is not capable of seeing, that will trigger another episode and make things worse. If I "validate" the small part of where she was correct in the matter, that is never enough. She wants me to fully agree and admit to her absurdity.
It is hard to have a convesation with her of any meaning since her thoughts and outlook on things is so irrational.
I'm trying desperately to read ahead in the book and this forum to find answers. You're helping me Josh--thank-you. If you can offer any more suggestions I would be grateful.
Excuse me, but are you married to my wife? This sounds exactly like her.
