It's always my fault... at least in the eyes of my dBPDgf

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Long story so I'm going to try and make it short.  My father passed away recently.  On the day of his memorial my dBPDgf had a fight.  She didn't go to my Dad's memorial with me.  I needed her so much.  She was mad because I was short with her 6.5 year old girl that came BARGING in the room early and I just wasn't feeling good.  And she just let her pop in bed and bounce around and talk VERY loud.  So I commented that she needs to knock or read a book or something.  Well that turned into a fight.  She kept on and on and on and on.  I meanwhile was trying to get ready and she wouldn't drop it.  I finally broke and told her to F#$# off.  And now she's held that against me ever since.  And she can't believe that i'm still hurting from her blowing me off on the day I needed support.  I don't ask for support often but that day it would have been nice.

Last night she started talking about a friend of hers that I absolutely do not like due to some past problems.  I didn't react the way she thought I should at the information given about her friend then she was like oh that's right you don't like her.  And the arguement went on from there.

Now she is at the if you can't be happy phase then you need to go. 

She is driving me crazy.  I try to validate and not get trapped into jade.  But it's getting almost to the point were something in me feels broken. 

She tried saying there was a double standard with us.  That she couldn't talk to anyone and I could.  It's quiet the opposite.  I dont' care who she talks to.  I told her I just didn't want to hear anything about one certain friend of hers.  That she could talk to her all she wanted.  But she took it as for her to do what she wants and me seperately. 

Part of me just wants to walk away now.   :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

[seh77]

Long story so I'm going to try and make it short.  My father passed away recently.  On the day of his memorial my dBPDgf had a fight.  She didn't go to my Dad's memorial with me.  I needed her so much.  She was mad because I was short with her 6.5 year old girl that came BARGING in the room early and I just wasn't feeling good.  And she just let her pop in bed and bounce around and talk VERY loud.  So I commented that she needs to knock or read a book or something.  Well that turned into a fight.  She kept on and on and on and on.  I meanwhile was trying to get ready and she wouldn't drop it.  I finally broke and told her to F#$# off.  And now she's held that against me ever since.  And she can't believe that i'm still hurting from her blowing me off on the day I needed support.  I don't ask for support often but that day it would have been nice.

Last night she started talking about a friend of hers that I absolutely do not like due to some past problems.  I didn't react the way she thought I should at the information given about her friend then she was like oh that's right you don't like her.  And the arguement went on from there.

Now she is at the if you can't be happy phase then you need to go. 

She is driving me crazy.  I try to validate and not get trapped into jade.  But it's getting almost to the point were something in me feels broken. 

She tried saying there was a double standard with us.  That she couldn't talk to anyone and I could.  It's quiet the opposite.  I dont' care who she talks to.  I told her I just didn't want to hear anything about one certain friend of hers.  That she could talk to her all she wanted.  But she took it as for her to do what she wants and me seperately. 

Part of me just wants to walk away now.   :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

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