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« on: March 18, 2014, 10:34:32 AM »

A few weeks ago, my wife (BPD and bipolar) did another suicide attempt going to a national park with the intent of  jumping off the cliff into the river.   The park police stopped her and took her to a hosptial.   

The hospital they took her to was private so they are not my insurance perferred provider.  The bill from the Dr was $1500 for stitching up her arm, the ER visit was $6500 and then fortunately to a public mental health hospital (preferred hospital so only $250).   I haven't gotten the bill from the ambulance to transport her-I'm sure another $1000.   My insurance will cover some of the expense but I'm betting about 1/3 so I'll have a $6000 bill to pay.   To add insult to injury, the police impounded the vehicle my wife drove and took it to an impound lot downtown DC.   I went to go pick up the behicle that evening and it was gone-they didn't even tell me they had done that. 

I'm grateful they stopped my wife from her intent but couldn't they have taken her to a public hospital (they were equal distance)?   My medical bills are high as it is (I'm sure most of you all have high bills too-psychaitrist, therapist, DBT, meds).  Insurance reimburses for some but I usually get about half back.   In order to pay for all of this, I have to let credit cards build up and I go deeper and deeper in debt.   I have no controll but am held responsible and have to deal with the consequences and fall out from my wifes actions.  Have to quickly find child care, pay for that too or take annual leave.  I "make too much" to qualify for any assistance, I'm lower middle class.   I work hard, being very patient, I know my wife didn't want this.  I view it as cancer, no one ask to get cancer or want it, we have to deal with it.  I would like a break every once in a while (financially and emotionally).  I have 3 dids to send to college and don't have a penny saved up for it.
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« Reply #1 on: March 18, 2014, 10:44:38 AM »

That looks like a really sick scam. They SHOULD have taken her to a public hospital. Do you have any friend in a legal profession to advise you?
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