Hi Narrow Gate,
I am not invited to dinner (she tells me she only cooked for the kids), and if I cook she is not hungery, not invited to go out of town with the family, been kicked out of the bedroom, not expected to do anything around the house, but I am railled on for not doing anything around the house. Every chance she has to remove me from something she acts. No longer in family pictures that she posts on the web. Every day it feels like I am slowly fading from the world. :'(
Game playing . Not real fun. She is trying to upset you. I don't think you are fading from the world. The way she acts she feels strongly connected to you.
Now if you could just reverse the polarity of that emotion.
You can only validate her being upset etc... Your own emotions are a good starting point as she will feel similar no matter how superior she acts.
As you feel so bad and mistreated think about your boundaries. You can't control her and she certainly has the right not to speak. But abuse and disrespect is something else. What are the really important boundaries for you and how to you go about protecting them?