Another Day in Paradise

[DazedButNotConfused]

I am sitting here shaking my head. Last night will be three times in the last 5 weeks the police have been at my house and three time my dBPDh was taken away by ambulance to the crisis center at the local hospital.

He was raging - had been brewing all day  -  and when I tried to leave the house (I think I have a reserved seat at the diner), he stood in the middle of the driveway and threw a propane tank at the car, several flower pots  -  with all this ending when I called the police after he picked up an ax (thank God for cell phones!).

THREE times he has been at Crisis. THREE times I told them of the violence. THREE times they let him go after only 12 or 14 hours  -   most of which time he is under sedation.

I am scared as to what will happen in a few hours. I have called the police but there is nothing they can do. I put a call into the Crisis workers and they have not called me back.

Oh, and did I mention that he let my dogs out the front door and I have no idea where they are?

I probably won't be on the staying board too much longer ... . (and can ANYONE tell me what is with the mental health community in the US?)

Dazed (and really shaken up) But Not Confused

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[MissTajo]

I literally cried reading your post.

Please, for your sake, change boards... . :'( He is being physically violent to you. What more can you do for him? Please think of yourself and your well being, and your life!

Please keep us posted! 

[jynx]

I agree this is physical violence.  He could have killed you.  Did you ask the police about a Restraining Order against him?  For support, forget about him and call the DV hotline.  1-800-799-SAFE (7233).  I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.

[mywifecrazy]

So sorry that you are going through this. Please get out and get in a secure SAFE place. He needs help that you can't provide. Get a restraining order. I hope there are no kids involved. Praying for your safety.

Hang in there!

[DazedButNotConfused]

Thank you all once again.

I was up most of the night looking for the dogs ... . and no, he can't come back here.

The Crisis workers still have not called me. I don't know what is going on at the hospital and, other then wanting to know if they turn him loose again, I really don't want to know anymore.

I am so very disappointed in our mental health care system, I can not even begin to express it. Seems someone has to get really hurt before they take any action.

I will be switching boards. This terrible, horrible mentaldisorder has finally, after 30 some years, got me beat.

It is all so hard to imagine ... . guess I am still in shock ... . anything good was an act. That is so hard to swallow.

[MissTajo]

Unfortunately, it's like that everywhere. Here it's the same. Unless someone gets killed, they show now interest in the case. That's why we all need to stay safe... .

I really hope that this time they realize you SO needs help and needs to stay in there for some time. It would give you time to move on and deal with all that is happening. It is not your fault he is BPD. Its not his fault either.

The important thing is for you to be safe.

We are here for you... .