I guess it's my irrational fear that she's just going to continue to get away with it that drives me nuts. She wouldn't know what consequences are if they smacked her in the face. I totally get that she'll never think she deserves them or is at all at fault for anything. But it would be nice if she had to deal with some all the same. The rest of us certainly do.
Not so irrational, really. My ex's consequences were few and far between. Apparently consequences for my ex were spread across some 8 years, her getting her temp custody reduced to shared parenting, then losing custody, then losing equal parenting time. I also remember that if it were me misbehaving the way she did, it wouldn't have taken the court some 8 years to figure it all out. Though unwritten, it seems the female gender and the messed up people get the court's patience and default preference.
What's so frustrating too is that while it may take 3, 5 or 10 requests to get the information, once it is eventually obtained then all the officials will view it as Resolved and not be concerned at what hoops and hurdles had to be surmounted in order to get there. Maybe it would count toward a demonstrated
pattern of obstruction that would make a difference to court, maybe.
There's a lot that I just had to
Let Go. It is what it is, she is what she is,
Radical Acceptance. I didn't forgive, I didn't feel that was something I could or should do, but I did my best to
Let Go. Otherwise, I might stay
Stuck and it would be hard to
Move On.
