It just will not stop..

[hurthusband]

ok... as many of you know things with my wife have been rough the past 3 months... .

a trip with her parents went back in Europe and I flew her back, followed 2 weeks later by some heavy medical bills at the ER...

followed 2 weeks after that with a car accident

followed 3 weeks after that with a dui

followed 2 weeks later with a trip to austin to give testimony against a doctor who had verbally assaulted her and threatened her during an abortion... the trip went very badly...

I got a number to a lawyer to talk to her about my options at this point without my wife knowing...

my wife just calls me and tells me she just learned 5 minutes ago her mother has terminal cancer...

i dont know how either of us can handle all this piling on of horrible horrible news... some is certainly her doing, but some is just horrible crap that is leading to her behavior because she is BPD...

I do not know how to help her or myself at this point

[Wanda]

 you don't help her, all you can do is listen... but you  need to help yourself, especially with the BPD

do things for you, and hopefully she will join you.  

sorry things are rough now.

with my husband he is again talking of another job he did this before, after 14 years left and they kept him three days' now he is with a great company. just his BPD is getting the best of him.  due to having a bad day

so i listen he applied for another company but come down to it he won't take it.

so i just support it not get to involved due to he wants me to so he can argue. life with a BPD  

[hurthusband]

thanks... your right...

just hard to know what they are saying is true and what is in their head

[momtara]

Just keep your boundaries - you can be kind but firm.

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[Fanie]

ok... as many of you know things with my wife have been rough the past 3 months... . 

a trip with her parents went back in Europe and I flew her back, followed 2 weeks later by some heavy medical bills at the ER...

followed 2 weeks after that with a car accident

followed 3 weeks after that with a dui

followed 2 weeks later with a trip to austin to give testimony against a doctor who had verbally assaulted her and threatened her during an abortion... the trip went very badly...

I got a number to a lawyer to talk to her about my options at this point without my wife knowing...

my wife just calls me and tells me she just learned 5 minutes ago her mother has terminal cancer...

i dont know how either of us can handle all this piling on of horrible horrible news... some is certainly her doing, but some is just horrible crap that is leading to her behavior because she is BPD...

I do not know how to help her or myself at this point

If I may say, yes, I appreciate that you are really, really having a hard time

When I read the treads, I sometimes think that thing are bad for me, then realize that there

are other non's that are in even worse situations ... .I am feeling for you ... .so much ... .

HH, I pray for you buddy ... .may God give you and your wife comfort ... .