Just Another Day

[wilsonian]

Not sure why I am writing this post... . just am I suppose... . We are in process of moving to a house so been working till midnight each night after work to get painted... cleaned... . carpets cleaned(my BPDw is also OCD)anyway cat got sick my daughter had our crate so I get off work just figured I would hold cat on way to vet   daughter was at work so no biggie... my wifey calls my daughters hubby makes him send his sis to there house get crate(clean it of course) and I reckon I was suppose to pick-up after work... . well that's fine only one problem no one told me all this so I am on the way home do my usually call to say love you baby... she asks if I got crate i am like?... . next thing I know I am being ripped on phone for not getting crate... so I turn around to get crate she calls back after hanging up on me and wants to know where I am told her going back to get crate... well guess what... I got ripped for headn back and was told to get home now... . gezz... then of course rest of the night while finishing painting I would make a comment about sorry if I am tired and that's turned to I am on edge and a grouch... made a comment about money then I am controlling... . ... . Just another day... .

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[enlighten me]

Hi wilsonian

Sorry to say that's an all too familiar story. The amount of grief I have had for her not telling me things then insisting she had is unbelievable. Then theres the ones where I have told her stuff and she says I haven't. She wouldn't text, email or message me anything important as I could then use it against her.

I pulled her up yesterday as she had told me I hadn't told her some dates. When I pointed out that I had and reminded her of the whole discussion she went off on one. I have to admit I did it knowing her reaction. It was almost to prove that she did do it but I mainly did it to test out a theory. I then messaged her with an appeasing message telling her I wasn't having a go and really appreciated everything she was trying to sort out for me and then thanked her for it. Well it worked. After a brief message on finances she sent me a picture of my son and a nice message.

All I can say is that I could never figure out what was going to trigger her from one day to the next. Looking back now Im starting to see a pattern but at the time I was too dazed and confused to work anything out.