Sorry to be a Pest Today Just Trying to Clear my Head

[wilsonian]

Ok... been sitting here at work doing the normal thing running it over and over and over in my head how... what... why the outburst happen today and why I let it get to me... .I thank all the ones who helped with advise... S.E.T... .Walking Away.etc... .right now... got a question... when a outburst happens and you have been away from your BPD partner

1.How do you deal with this fear of seeing them again?

2.What do you say or do when you do see them... ?

3.How do you take them saying sorry again and again?

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[reluctanthusband]

1.  I always fear it, I try to ignore it but it never goes away.  I'm nervous right now having to go home and tell my wife i dont want to attend "Her" bible study because... .well it dosent matter to her but the construction guys are comming tomorrow(Flood restoration) and we have not packed anything up yet to get it out of the way.

2.  I have been trying to act like it didn't even happen.  They wont acknowledge what they did.  She did this to me last night after our T session.  "How can you act so normal after you looked horrible in session?"  My response was it's like cough medicine you dont like the way it tastes but its good for you in the end.

3.Uhhhhh Whats that word again S O R R Y?  I've never herd it, I have but so infrequent that i can only remember two times.  One she kicked/punted off one of our kitchen cabinet doors and the other after she told me she had an affair 8 years prior while I was stationed overseas(this was a few months before our 10yr anniversary).  That sorry was IMMEDIATELY followed the next day by why haven't you forgiven me yet.  Then the blaming me for making her vulnerable.