how do I respond to this

[Mrs. Hyde]

History-husband in extreme state of dysregulation.  Completely painted me black despite giving birth 2 weeks ago.  Talks about leaving frequently

Me via text -"I love you, I miss you, I am struggling right now.  Please be patient with me and I will be patient with you"

Husband"maybe its a wrap"

Me-?what does that mean?

Husband-do you want me to pick up wraps from qdoba for dinner"

Clearly its passive aggressive and mean spirited.  Should I have just ignored it completely or asked about it? 

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[refusetosuccumb]

Congrats on the birth of your child.

This time is about you, my dear.  Your child needs you and you need to be able to attend to the child's needs and your own.  You both need to bond with each other and you don't need the added stress.

Unfortunately, I found that the birth of both of our children only increased his dysregulation.  It was no longer all about him anymore, I had two defenseless children to worry about.

Do better than I did.  Focus on you and the baby.  If he's dysregulated there isn't a lot you can do about it except not get sucked into his drama.

[LilHurt420]

Congrats on the birth of your child! 

I've found lately ignoring things like that are the best way to deal with them in the long run, but it doesn't make it any easier on myself to deal with.