Should I share the possibility of BPD with his siblings?

[flowerpath]

The siblings of my husband know about his behavior.  I just told them about it recently.  I believe they interpret is as simple anger/temper tantrums/choice.  Can someone give me advice on whether to/how to share the possibility of this being a mental illness? 

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[Angi]

Hi flowerpath,

Why not? It´s just an assumption and you will never know what they think until you have talk about it. If it should turn out to be true, you will need friends. Or do you think they would accuse you of thinking of such a possibility?

[flowerpath]

Hi, Angi.  After giving it some more thought, I think they would not look it the same way, and rationalize instead. It's a painful thing to consider, and easier to reject. 

[Angi]

Hi flowerpath,

I suppose you´re right with trusting your own feelings. Your husband´s siblings might be closer to your husband than to you and that would make things even worse for you. Are there any other people who could support you?

I have just tried to make my aunts and uncle aware of the fact that my mum might have a BPD. They hadn´t heard about anything like that before. There reactions were quite different. Especially as my cousin and a wife of one of my cousins turned out to have (had) patients with BPD (which I didn´t know before), some were understanding and interested, but my uncle said I´m completely ill and should look for a proper doctor.

[Angi]

sorry: their reactions

[IsItHerOrIsItMe]

I had to laugh... .it wouldn't be hard convincing my brother-in-law that my uBPDw is mentally ill... .He may not have heard of BPD before, but he's certainly aware that something "just ain't right"... .