So hurt/frustrated

[Marvis]

Garg! That's the only word I can use to thoroughly explain my actions right now. My uBPDbf and I are currently in day 2 of the silent treatment.  This was brought on by me not feeling well and making something different for dinner, something quicker so I could crawl in to bed after cleaning up. I, in my not-right-frame-of-mind that the silent treatment always gives me, tried to talk to him earlier which threw him into a rage. He told me that I don't take care of his basic needs, I'm incapable,  I'm an idiot and a dumbass, I am unwelcome in our home (but don't leave), I'm going to screw him out of rent money because I want to see him suffer (I constantly go without so he can buy weed, get expensive haircuts, basically get everything he wants). The list of filth that came out of his mouth goes on. The cat and I are banished to the couch. I should have never tried to talk to him. I was being selfish I guess. I needed him to hold me. I still don't feel good and I wanted some comfort.  I realize that was way too much to ask of him. I just don't know what to do. At least I got my little black cat to keep me company.

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[mywifecrazy]

I don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry that you are treated this way. Thank God for your little black cat. Hang in there!

[Marvis]

I don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry that you are treated this way. Thank God for your little black cat. Hang in there!

I guess i just needed to vent to people who actually have a grasp on what I'm working with here. Everyone else tells me to leave him and can't understand why I won't do that. It seems like talking to anyone lately ends up in a fight where I'm on the losing end. Keep me in your prayers to whatever gods will listen,  I'll do the same for all of you.

[flowerpath]

Marvis, I’m sorry that you are on the receiving end of such anger.  I know that it really does hurt to have profanities hurled at you and that watching someone act out in a fit of rage can almost be surreal.  I'm finding that this a good and healthy place to express my feelings, get some good advice, and learn ways to make changes in myself so that I can have a better life.  (P.S.  I’m all geared up to not stand around to hear the filth or watch the rage the next time it happens…AKA “boundary”.)