Thank you guys,
She has dreams of owning her own business & I have tried to support her in this in all ways possible.
Somehow I feel I have invalidated her though, she see me as a mad scientist / genius who is disorganised and she is a perfectionist to the extreme yet can't get her act together to follow her dream.
So I guess she see me as being lame and achieving... .
She is allowed her view on reality and you are allowed your view of reality. It mainly causes a problem if you start believing hers or trying to convince her of yours.
Bringing dreams to fruition is very difficult for someone with BPD as their twisted view of things always seems to sabotage their efforts. Frustrating to watch, but you must resist the temptation to jump in and prop it up, as it will only fail at the next hurdle.
Here is what happened to me in my own younger narcissistic days.
I had big dreams of writing screenplays and novels.
My dad told me my whole life that I would never make money writing. It was very discouraging.
I would imagine these epic stories, but when it came to writing them down, I felt overwhelmed and defeated.
Perhaps this is a little of how she feels?
Offer her support and break it down into manageable steps for her.
As a warning, do not give her money to get her started. Most likely if you do that you will never see a return and she will still blame you for her business failing or whatever.