How to communicate love to BPDgf

[Flora73]

How do you communicate care & love to your BPD or try and be there when they have painted you black? now 8 weeks.

I have posted it in this forum because I do care about her. I do though care about myself and look after myself with self love and care.

I put the pedestal I placed her on in the incinerator 

I would like to be there for her but this is her decision and Im happy in myself with the current situation

I have tried everything, she reads my emails and texts, takes the flowers I send but never responds or says thank you .

Any help from someone who has been here before would be appreciated.

Just need to know what to do, I'm 3 days no contact now but don't want to come across as abandoning her... .which she has always said people do.

Thank you everyone.

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[enlighten me]

I asked my exgf the same question. How do you prove to someone you love them. Her answer was to be there for them. To put them first above all others. Basically she wanted me at her beck and call 24 hours a day but I realise that even if I did that it still wouldn't be enough. Im afraid to say once they don't believe you love them it is very difficult to change their mind.