i haven't contacted since yesterday morning when I asked to speak to the kids and she didn't respond. She has now emailed about a bill and when I can pay my part. This is the frustrating part. I'm tired of this being the only communication with me. I haven't responded yet. Trying to let her know that this weekend I will, validate her and having a hard time with this one as I don't want to JADE... .
I'm wondering if you need to respond differently when she contacts you. It's obvious that you responding promptly and her ignoring is not going well... .
I'm hoping some others have suggestions about the best way to do this.
On the one hand... .email is good for handling finances... .you can stick to the point... .read it a couple times before sending it... .all that is good.
But in your case... .you would like to see her and spend time with her... in a positive manner.
I'm trying to think if there is a way for you to gain some control back through this... .make her make choices... .instead of you having to suck it up all the time.
Again... this is me "wondering aloud"... vice telling you. But I'm thinking that an email response acknowledging receipt and that you are working on this and other financial issues. Then... follow up in a day or two with something along the lines of I have some answers and I'm available to meet and discuss (and then give a couple times she can pick).
If you guys meet and have a good conversation... and stay productive. Hand over the money and give the information. Make sure that is at the end and don't linger.
If she dysregulates... .leave and let her know you will be available later. (need to work on exact wording)
Note: Don't do this unless several other senior members think its a good idea... .and definitely don't unless you KNOW! That you can hold it together and follow the lessons and rules.
Thoughts?
