Thank you formflier
I have spent a lot of time becoming more mindful and practicing self love etc.
I have read these and have read walking on eggshells etc etc.
Well from her actions, she doesn't want to know me. however with hindsight of BPD, she has split me black and could be just trying to have quiet time to ponder and work her way forward.
Possibly... .
While we may never know for sure why the silent treatment. One way to think of it is a coping mechanism... .
So... if that is the case... .coping with what? Again... we'll most likely never know for sure... .but I would say there has been an emotion or stimulus that has been a bit much for them.
So... rather than have an outburst... .they go quiet.
It's also possible they know silent treatment bugs you and gets a reaction... so they do that.
Again... .you'll never know for sure. This is where some healthy "detachment" comes into play and you try to figure out something positive and good that can be done... .that is not a "reaction"... .in other words doesn't feed a continuing negative cycle... .and that possibly opens the door to a positive cycle starting.
What does validation mean to you?
What does it mean to "invalidate" someone?