I wonder if you are married to an ex of mine
This ex would say the same thing to me. "Are you going to visit your other girlfriend today?" I thought she was kidding for awhile. But then she would describe my "other girlfriend" and claim she saw my other girlfriend in a "vision", claim she smelled the other woman's perfume on me (it was my deodorant - I eventually quit wearing deodorant so that I would not get these comments). According to her, she was blonde and young and quiet and wholesome. She's say, "when you have sex with your other girlfriend be sure to use a condom."
And I think she absolutely 100% believed this fantasy.Now my current fiancé has done similar. She will just randomly ask if I have other women (but not insist I have one). And when she is distraught, claim I should be with someone else who is younger, more stable, blonde and wholesome. Weird that two women would claim that I should be with a blonde, younger, wholesome woman - but maybe that is a clue to what is going on. My feeling is that both my ex and my fiancé hate themselves, think they are worthless, think they have no business being with a guy like me, and create this "ideal" woman (the woman they wish they were) as the woman I must be with.
It's soo very frustrating!