I feel really guilty because she's locked up and it's partly my fault for not letting her come home without a safety plan. How do I stop feeling guilty.
I think you focus on the fact that you are "guilty" of making wise choices.
Also think that you realize that guilt is your feeling.
Do you have a relationship with a therapist? Guilt is something I have discussed with a therapist before... .and found that to be an effective way to set priorities and feel less "guilty" about doing that...