not sure how to stop playing the game. For instance he hides my debit card. I frantically look thinking ive lost it. He finds it. He is hero isnt he. Later find out he hid. I didnt say anything.
Read through some of the lessons on the side of this page. There is a lot of stuff there to read and think about. I keep reading and re-reading things to try to keep things in perspective.
How do you know for certain that he hid your debit card? I ask because there have been times when I thought that my husband did things on purpose. It turns out that he is too self centered to be able to pull off something like deliberately hiding something from me. He doesn't put much thought in anything that he does because he is so impulsive. It is like dealing with an impulsive and immature child at times.
Read through the section on Understanding your partner's behaviors. I keep reading it and rereading it trying to wrap my mind around some of these things.
Would he have been the hero if you hadn't freaked out? What would he have done if you had said, "Oh well, I lost my card, I guess I will call the bank and have them send me a new one if it doesn't turn up soon?" Could it be possible that he was feeding off of your frantic energy?
