On the other hand I have had the whole BPD playbook thrown at me about why I don’t follow her to her church. I'm having an affair, I love a woman that is old enough to be my mother more than I love my wife, I'm weak, Unsaved and more everything you could think of.
What would your life look like if you ignored the BPD playbook... .no reaction whatsoever?
Hopefully you can detach a little... .so you can observe the playbook without being affected... .you are looking for things to validate... .