HI just wanted to say hi and check in...

[Wanda]

 

i am still here, i am not on as  much due to i don't see any names i recognize maybe if i come on more then never i would know the names i just came on to say   things here continue to be fine, my husband who has BPD and doesn't know it does well also, right now he still works over nights i work swing shift all our kids have  grown up and two are out. our oldest son who is challenged but high functioning i am working on moving him out also with two other guys who is challenged also. this empty nesting sure is hard. my husband doesn't like change but what BPD does right? so  he is wishy washy about the whole thing.  but things are going fine if i am not on again. Happy Halloween...

we will be married 18 years this valentines day. and for us things got better( a reason i am not on as much )he doesn't rage any more . not for days at a time like he use to, a lot is i just walk away i don't listen to him. i changed and so did he, he has no choice. well just wanted to say hi... .

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[takingandsending]

Hi Wanda. I appreciate hearing your good news very much! I suppose it is just small, incremental changes over the months and years if you can keep doing the work on yourself that makes things better.

Glad to hear you are hanging in there on the functional side of life. I hope to see you on that side someday soon. 

[Rapt Reader]

Thanks for checking in with an update, Wanda 

It's great to hear your news, and wonderful encouragement for the rest of us... .

i changed and so did he, he has no choice.

Exactly 

[Grey Kitty]

  Glad to hear things are good for you. I'm doing well, and my wife isn't showing the BPD symptoms anymore, 'tho she has had a recent bout with depression and anxiety.

[Lucky One]

Hi Wanda,

Glad to hear your success story.

I've just started the long road, and find stories like yours, and others like Formflier, truly motivational and inspirational.

Have to work on ourselves - that's the solution - you guys have convinced me!

Good place to start.

Thanks so much

[sweetheart]

Hello Wanda,

Thanku for posting it means a lot to me personally as it's always so lovely to have positive news and that's what I needed today.

I think waverider once said that we naturally tend towards using the site when we are in difficulties or trying to facilitate our own overwhelmed internal process.

I was having a difficult day today, feeling really overwhelmed emotionally. Ironically it was the little things that I was finding so hard to deal with, a really messy kitchen, little or no help arranging activities for our son, juggling domestic life and then navigating that path with a pwBPD.

It didn't last too long, I did a bit of crying in the shower, then took s6 swimming, had a really lovely time.

Wishing you and your family well xxx