She suggest that if he quits therapy over it then I should consider divorcing as the relationship will never change.
If this is why you are feeling hopeless, survivalmode27, I would like to encourage you to look at the possibilities:
1). He goes to Therapy, has a change in his outlook on life and you and your marriage, and things start to get better with him in Therapy, and you learning what you need to, also, to support him in his recovery.
2). He goes to Therapy, finds it difficult to deal with his own truth, and balks at it for awhile, missing appointments and threatening to not go anymore. And then he goes back, once he regulates again and feels that he really does need help and now will get it. And things start to get better (see above )... .
3). He goes to Therapy, hates it and doesn't think he needs it, or doesn't want to face his truth, and never goes again. And you continue to learn what you need to, make some changes in how you communicate and deal with him, and things start to get better (because once you make changes in your dealings with him, he changes how he
reacts to
you).
4). He goes to Therapy, hates it and doesn't think he needs it, and nothing you do helps him make changes in any way, and nothing ever changes or ever gets better.
I'm not sure which of these scenarios is most likely, but only one of them warrants feeling hopeless... .75% of the possibilities warrant
lots of hope, and only the last one seems pretty hopeless. I would go with the glass 3/4 full rule here, no?
