Tips for dealing with the ups and downs?

[Lumpy_]

I'm assuming many of you are quite familiar with your BP cycling between being ridiculously clingy and affectionate, then distant and, 'off' when they're feeling stressed?

We are going through a bit of a distant and off phase at the moment. There are still elements of affection and he is still seeing me every day - this is not something that fazes me as I understand that neediness is a big thing with them  . He is very stressed with work so I assume this is the reason (or could just be their eternal moodiness :P) but does anyone have any advice on how I should, 'behave' during this time?

I have a tendency to withdraw when I don't understand things, but I have a feeling that this would only worsen how he's feeling. I am currently trying to mirror and assure myself that it's not me, but him, but otherwise I'm not sure what I should be doing to keep things comfortable .

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[MaroonLiquid]

Withdraw "lovingly".  You are there when he wants to talk, but don't pressure and just concentrate on the things you can/need to do for yourself in the meantime.  Pressuring them to talk only makes the dysregulations worse.  Validate when you can on the underlying emotion.