Did I handle these scenarios right?

[Mr. Solo]

My dBPDw had pinned a bunch of mean stuff about me on her Pinterest account the first few months following her leaving (we are still separated). Memes that were demeaning to husbands or men in general. I was on Pinterest but after she left I deleted the app because I figured she would post stuff and I didn't want to see it. Well, I decided to get back on Pinterest and some of her stuff came up (she had unblocked me). She had also sent me a few messages after she left with insults and stuff. I ignored it. I pinned some stuff and then she actually contacted me and asked if I was back on Pinterest. She asked me not to look at her pins and I told her I saw a few already. Before she could go further, I explained to her that I understand how she felt like she did, especially at the time she left, and I didn't take any of what I saw personally. I really didn't. Reading stuff here has helped me do that.

She had posted a meme that said something like, "It is so sad when there is someone that has your heart but you cant be together because the timing was never right." She asked me if I saw that one. I don't know if she wanted me to see it or what. I did see it though. She then went on to tell me how she felt guilty our entire marriage because she sometimes wondered if she had been with one of her former boyfriends how her life would have been different. Obviously, I didn't really like hearing that but at the same time, I believe that is normal for the most part. So, I told her I understood why she would feel guilty but she shouldn't because people do that to a certain extent.

Normally, I probably would have gotten upset she posted such nonsense on social media for everyone to see. I think it is childish but I really do understand why she did it. So, we were able to talk about it honestly and we didn't get upset with each other or get in a fight. I told her how it made me feel. She told me why she did it. That was it. We moved on to another topic without incident.

Good? Bad? Advice? Thoughts?

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[MaroonLiquid]

My wife has done that a bunch since our separation on her Facebook.  She blocked me like two months ago, and put a meme that said, "You move on when your heart understands that there is no turning back"  I understand that seems true TO HER because of what she has done and would rather end things than face them because its easier.  It is normal... .It is also projection and attention seeking behavior

[Mr. Solo]

My wife has done that a bunch since our separation on her Facebook.  She blocked me like two months ago, and put a meme that said, "You move on when your heart understands that there is no turning back"  I understand that seems true TO HER because of what she has done and would rather end things than face them because its easier.  It is normal... .It is also projection and attention seeking behavior

Right. That's the way I see it. She was angry and was projecting. Some of the ones I saw didn't make sense if addressed to me. She had to be addressing them to me while projecting herself on to me. "Oh, so you don't like be treated how you treat me?" Seriously? All I ever did was jump through gazillions of hoops trying to get her to wake up while she abused me emotionally, mentally, and physically. Yeah. I treated her bad.

[shatra]

Hi

  The fact that she unblocked you seems she wants contact.

  All the insulting things she posts could be projection. It could be "spllitting"---she devalues you and sees you as all bad, then later on all good.

    Sounds like she is testing you. When you "didn't take it personally", how were you able to not take it personally?

Shatra

[Mr. Solo]

Hi

  The fact that she unblocked you seems she wants contact.

  All the insulting things she posts could be projection. It could be "spllitting"---she devalues you and sees you as all bad, then later on all good.

    Sounds like she is testing you. When you "didn't take it personally", how were you able to not take it personally?

Shatra

We are in constant contact. We see each other a few times daily. We actually get a long like nothing ever happened (without any affection) as long as nobody brings up something that happened in the past.

Right about projection/splitting. That's why I didn't take it personally. I know now that's just something she did/does. I don't like it, obviously, but it feels good knowing when she does that she really is distorting things. I used to wonder if she was correct about everything. Now I know she wasn't. So, it doesn't bother me as much.