just quickly - don't be so sure it's yours. if she is 8 wks pregnant then it's all pretty recent. they add two weeks, so she would have conceived about 6 weeks ago (from what I remember... .I think).
Her behavior is so disorienting and confusing. Sometimes she seems so VOID of emotion. Other times vibrant, lucid and amazing (i.e. the Girl I knew in the honeymoon phase). I have wondered if she has been pregnant the whole time we have known eachother and it makes me sick to think about it. However, if anything I think she may have faked her September period and when October did not come she let me know the news. Therefore she is farther along than what she says. She has absolutely zero regard for the implications this will have on my life while I offered everything to accommodate her life and career. Evertime I need to talk about something important she is vague, dismissive or changes the subject. All the stress of an unplanned pregnancy with a woman I barely knew (who said she loved me and agreed to raise the child as a family with me if we kept it), becoming a first time father, finances, a potential 1000 mile a week commute to my job, unanswered questions, insecurity about the relationship, her existing two year old and the High Conflict Ex who is jobless pot grower etc... .Finally broke me down. We ended up having our first fight because I was melting down! Instead of seeing all the stress I was under and being considerate she made me out to be a monster who was attacking her, that her feelings and emotional well being was not safe around me. This fight is when I really got scared of her. Everything was turned on me, she dinied her lies, denied conversations ever took place, blocked, deflected, twisted and by the time it was over I had know idea what had just happened. None of my concerns had been addressed and the only out come was that I had a communication problem and that she didnt know if she could live with that person she saw the rest of her life. Now she had touched on my biggest fear and was holding ransom... .comply or you will not be in the house with your child. I dont even know where to begin. I had to start keeping notes as her behavior, actions, inaction's and words seemed so paradoxical. I feel like my brain is like a basketball bouncing in slow motion video! Like it's warping and retracting back to shape. She twists and turns things and so frigging sensitive that the slightest concern I have with her puts her into defense mode. "I'm being attacked" or "So this is all my fault" like a broken record whenever I present an indisputable fact.
SERENITY NOW!