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Author Topic: I think I am going to quit  (Read 590 times)
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« Reply #30 on: December 06, 2014, 06:02:03 PM »

No, this does not strike me.

I am perfectly aware that life generally can't be planned. Obviously I had some basic expectations, but not all that much. I have no expectations of the type how we'll live happily "ever after".

We might as well live unhappily, or quarrel round the clock - it's all right. We might as well travel, sometimes for long, each of us. It also happens with most people.

I do have the abandonment fears of my own, but those should be kept in check.

There was some resentment of the type "I came to india, and you broke your rib and spoiled everything!" (it was initially quite childish), but as I get more adventures in life, it's passing. Now I am more of the kind "All right, he allegedly 'spoiled' everything. But I have more life than that, why bother? I'll see him some other day - and even if he does not show up, so what?"

There was some concern FOR HIM, that drinking in his family is unsafe. I will keep explaining it to him - now that he seems to talk sense, he does not sound like he is happy that he spent 2 weeks in drunk haze and did not even notice that I broke up with him :-)

I have got in touch with my own preferences - honestly, I like to travel between spain and india. It's an amazing lifestyle. So why punish myself because of his actions?

I will just keep travelling while it is possible.

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Just to mention, he is sometimes not talking to me for months (it happens long-distance). I have learned to retain my cool, step out of the situation and use the personal time to do something useful. I do not think it is harmful for me - moreover, I did a lot of good things that way. Smiling (click to insert in post)

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