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« on: December 10, 2014, 02:20:45 AM »

Well we are heading for a weekend away I bought for my uBPDh for his birthday mid year. I have been so anxious re his mood but he has been really trying. I am hoping for 3 days of no dysregulation. Keeping my validation technique handy but hoping we can both just relax. Wish us luck!
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« Reply #1 on: December 10, 2014, 03:27:54 AM »

What is the validation technique?
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« Reply #2 on: December 10, 2014, 05:04:20 AM »

Keep in mind it is sometimes easier to focus on not being invalidating, rather than trying to overdo the validation. Especially as he may be on a hair trigger in unfamiliar surroundings.
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« Reply #3 on: December 10, 2014, 11:22:11 PM »

Thanks waverider... .hoping sunny (?) Queensland wil prove therapeutic. He struggles as the stress grows but once we're on the plane I hope he will start to relax. Will take your advice onboard!
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« Reply #4 on: December 11, 2014, 02:15:42 AM »

Thanks waverider... .hoping sunny (?) Queensland wil prove therapeutic. He struggles as the stress grows but once we're on the plane I hope he will start to relax. Will take your advice onboard!

Queensland sounds nice. (thats the sunny state in Aus for those not familiar, and its summer here)
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