Can you describe the boundary use would like to use?
Well good you ask, because it's kind of new for me and I am not fully aware of my boundaries yet, but I think there have now been crossed (I've probably let it slip ): 3.
First one was I wasn't allowed to talk with her about crises we went through. (I've already adressed that to her, but without real consequences for her)
Second is she rages by using silent treatment (I've already adressed that to her, but without real consequences for her)
Third, she hurts me tremendously by sayings and actions on social media I'm trying to avoid but still get to me, for example it seems like I've been replaced or admitting to enjoy being crazy. (a.k.a. enjoying hurting me?)
I want to tell her I am hurt by seeing that stuff on social media and by her silent treatment and I wish to be heard, though I think I am just going to tell her the first reason (the social media thing) because that is what I am going to do, remove her from my social media accounts, so I don't have to see it anymore. I've held on for too long already, trying to avoid it and ignoring it but it hurts now so badly for the fifth time, I have to end this and this is hard for me, because I don't want to loose her at all.
So what do you think?
Thank you for your answers, much helpful