Hi maxsterling,
I am glad you can relate. We're not alone in this venture of love. I hadn't been on medication for many years. I was diagnosed with ADHD about 30 years ago and tried Ritalin for a couple years. I didn't like the way it made me feel, and I had learned some great compensatory skills. With my relatively new marriage, we realized that ADHD was effecting our marriage. We found a great resource at
www.adhdmarriage.com where they have a great phone conference workshop series. I started on Vyvanse this summer and it does seem to help with focus on our relationship issues for me. I tend to interrupt, get quiet, and have difficulty expressing my inner feelings. I am also learning about how to deal better with my wife's symptoms similar to BPD. (She has not been diagnosed nor have I suggested that she might be BPD. I am hoping that through her counseling she might discover it.) I think the interaction between the possible BPD and my ADHD brought the effect of ADHD to the forefront. We have been working committedly together and are growing.
Just to say there is hope!
