New here and married to BPD wife

[Itsumi]

Hello,

My wife of 17+ years had been acting strangely for a month and eventually I found some disturbing things she had done and after going to her psychiatrist who had been seeing her for 8+ years we found out she has had BPD and apparently something triggered a "crisis event" which took her from her usual high functioning status to a basket case to be blunt. I often feel like I'm losing my sanity now and have a very hard time separating her from the BPD. Hoping sharing my story little by little will help me get over my feelings before I have to leave.

[PLEASE - NO RUN MESSAGES]

PLEASE - NO RUN MESSAGES This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members may appear frustrated but they are here for constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

[Rapt Reader]

Hello, Itsumi & 

I'm very sorry for the pain you and your wife have been going through, and want to let you know that you have found the right place to figure out how to separate her from the BPD that is tormenting her (and you!). Have you had the chance to check out all of the links to the right-hand side of this page? We also have several Feature Articles under the 4 photos at the top of the threads page of this board that are really very educational and loaded with the advice you are looking for.

I hope that you tell us more about your story, little by little if that works best for you    But do let us know just what is going on that is troubling you... .We'd love to help, Itsumi.