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Poore82
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
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« on: January 20, 2015, 04:02:18 PM »

Hi,

I am a 32 year old female with a 15 month old daughter. My husband I believe is BPD. Since my daughter has been born our fights have been pretty nasty. He stated recently that he was diagnosed with BPD but does not believe he has it. It was been very difficult for me to feel attacked emotionally and yet still wanting to keep the family that I love together. I want to learn how to set boundaries and to learn how to interact with my husband when he is angry while still being a positive light and role model for my daughter. I need help.
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Non existent. Co-habitat. She is extremely abusive and manipulative.
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« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2015, 04:13:12 PM »

Great news for you is that he actually admitted that he has PD.  I would follow that up and suggest you two go counseling together.  From there, you can have the counselor help you setting boundaries and with him present, he would be more on board.  I think most people on this board have the challenge that our partners do not recognize they have PDs... .so they don't even want to do something to change for the better.  Good luck.
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« Reply #2 on: January 21, 2015, 09:09:35 AM »

Hi Poore82, 

Welcome aboard. You have come to a great place for help. There are many resources here to help you set boundaries and interact with your husband. Here are some articles to help you get started.  BOUNDARIES: Upholding our values and independence

TOOLS: S.E.T. - Support, Empathy and Truth

I am sorry that things have been difficult for you.    Taking care of yourself and understanding your role in the relationship really helps with difficult situations. Have you had the chance to focus on yourself?

Perhaps you could share more of your story so we can help you better?
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