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« Reply #30 on: January 20, 2015, 04:26:34 PM »

The only thing that ended up working for me was to say what I was going to do, and then "if I don't hear from you by day/date, I will interpret that as consent."

But you have a slightly different problem, which is getting him to agree AND pay. My ex would just not pay, so I pretty much assumed I was going to have to get that worked out in court. Which gets expensive. Usually I would wait and roll it into whatever other motion was happening. And there was always something happening -- over 60 court filings in 4 years.

I'll never marry a N/BPD lawyer again. 

Maybe you need to separate the issues? One is getting a T for D. The other is getting your ex to pay. Court expects him to pay whether he agrees or not, so he'll eventually have to pay. Sometimes I found it easier to separate out the priority and focus on that, and then deal with the other stuff later with lawyers. Not a great solution, but I didn't see how else to get S13's needs met.

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