Seeking feedback - Have extensively read ab BPD - "Predictably Unpredictable"

[Oceans_Divide]

This is my 1st shot at this, however it will be a very short one as my laptop is on 3%. I plan to re-introduce myself within the next hour or two. I do need help with this situation as I am currently in-between both deciding to remove myself for good and sticking through it for the next 5 months before she goes back home - to the islands.

1. She has given me hints and clues for many months about certain negative people her life, emotionally confused and/or withdrawn often.

2. She is very intelligent, will freely admit that she may not have been raised with the best values and morals but loyalty is all she has to define herself by. Or the main characteristic trait... .Ok 1% now... Gotta post.

Back soon... .

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[Haye]

Hi Oceans_Divide and 

This board as whole offers many good well thought writings and tools, have you checked them? I recommend reading https://bpdfamily.com/content/why-we-struggle-in-relationships if you haven't already. Also going through https://bpdfamily.com/portfolio-4-cols could be wise.

Decisions are something nobody else can do for you. There are lot of nice and knowleageble folk here and they meight be able to advice you to choose the path you want to take.

The tools will be a very good source to make things work for you too if you decide to stay. I recommend going through some of the basic lessons and tools even if you do not stay – they are good and my feeling is that anyone will benefit in going through with them.

Just a thought. I'm not the best here to give anyone advice, but there's also an inbetween leaving and staying: timeout. https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=84942.0

[Grey Kitty]

Hello and welcome!

I hope you can finish your story soon. Please tell us more about what your girlfriend is doing that troubles you.

 GK