Clueless

[crash42]

We've been together for 14 years and married for seven.  Our baby shortly turns six.

I've weathered quite the storm of the last couple of years.  Much of it has been divided between inpatient, IOP and PHP.

I'm tired.  I just checked her in for ECT a few hours ago.  I have no idea if I'm doing the right thing.

All I know is that medication isn't working, and her doctor says that this is the lat resort.

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[vortex of confusion]

  

Sounds like you are in a really tough spot. Lots of people on the boards have been in your position.

Starting with the lessons which can be found on the right side of this forum might help you to understand her behaviors. There is one called Understanding your Partner's behaviors https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56206.msg913187#msg913187

If you want to share some of your story, maybe other members can provide some insights or even a "me too" to let you know that you are not alone in your struggles.

[crash42]

I posted a five part series on reddit detailing where we've been and what we've been through.  I can link it, if that's kosher, but I'm a long way away from being up to retelling the entire tale.  Ultimately, it feels like a bad pulp fiction version of the Notebook.

[Cat Familiar]

You must be overwhelmed. We have been through trying times with our partners and we understand. You don't have to tell the whole story, but perhaps you could tell us some of the behaviors that are problematic and perhaps we can come up with some coping strategies that will assist you.