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« on: March 17, 2015, 10:00:07 AM »

So lately I've been feeling more and more depressed and anxious from having to constantly deal with something due to DH's BPD.  We just had our 2nd child (who is 3 months old) and between constantly dealing with some issue with my DH and taking care of 2 kids I feel like I'm losing my mind.

I have a doctors appointment next week and plan to talk to my doctor about it and see what my options are.  Just wanted to ask others in a similar situation as me what they've done?

Have you taken any types of medication? did it help? or what have you done to cope?
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« Reply #1 on: March 17, 2015, 10:24:35 AM »

Certainly there are some needs for medication and doctors can accurately determine that.

For me, I found that I was self medicating to avoid dealing with things and avoid the internal pain.  After identifying this, I cut out the self medication.  It would obviously be nice to just zone out and not feel anything, but I didn't think this was a good strategy for me.  If I allow myself to feel the pain then I am more likely to actually deal with it. 
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« Reply #2 on: March 17, 2015, 10:30:18 AM »

Certainly there are some needs for medication and doctors can accurately determine that.

For me, I found that I was self medicating to avoid dealing with things and avoid the internal pain.  After identifying this, I cut out the self medication.  It would obviously be nice to just zone out and not feel anything, but I didn't think this was a good strategy for me.  If I allow myself to feel the pain then I am more likely to actually deal with it. 

I have also used self medication before I got pregnant and find myself doing it again now afterwards.  I recognize my bad habits (drinking, smoking... .) aren't making anything better.  When I'm not self medicating I just find it so hard to get through the day.  I can't concentrate on my work because there's always some issue going on with DH.
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« Reply #3 on: March 17, 2015, 11:02:19 AM »

I have a doctors appointment next week and plan to talk to my doctor about it and see what my options are.  Just wanted to ask others in a similar situation as me what they've done?

Have you taken any types of medication? did it help? or what have you done to cope?

Coping: I used to drink myself into blackouts. Not an option anymore. My pwBPD is a pothead. I've been going to REBT group sessions for about four months now. My W is still a pothead. To be fair, she's also on 4 medications.

Medication: I'm not going to say which ones I'm on, because there is absolutely no reason to put ideas into your head. There are so many medications out there to treat so many different symptoms.

Are they helping? I don't know. I'm doing better, but that progress has come from being sober, taking medication, seeing therapists and writing for hours to put my thoughts in order. Soul searching. I can confidently say that one of the medications I'm on has helped me sleep uninterrupted for 6-7 hours a night... .for the first time in my life.

Your doctor: Are you talking PCP, or a psych?

What I've done: I don't want to worry you, but hey, you asked... .It took me three years to find the right therapists and medication. Is that typical? I have no idea. The amount of B.S. I had to deal with is... .um... .B.S, although I don't think about it too often. I've learned to avoid dwelling on the past. That took a while, but it helps. I'm still pretty screwed up over the fact I was thrown into a psychiatric facility against my will for no legitimate reason, but I'm addressing that frustration.

Suggestions: Don't give yourself over to your doctors. Take an active role. Go to (legitimate!) sources to learn about medications they suggest, and their side effects. Answer questions honestly, but be aware of responses they might misinterpret. Ask questions, and if they don't answer them, ask the questions again, or reword them. Please avoid leaving a doctor's office if you're confused about anything.

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« Reply #4 on: March 17, 2015, 07:33:14 PM »

I sometimes take B-complex (stress tabs), but I've used them during stressful times forever.

Also, be sure to ask about possible Postpartum depression. It doesn't always manifest itself immediately.
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