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Author Topic: What does "bland" mean in BP land? A thread for amusment in a sea of chaos.  (Read 416 times)
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« on: March 21, 2015, 09:39:20 PM »

Yesterday, H decides he is going to have Hot and Sour soup for dinner and when he gets to the Chinese place, he realizes that he forgot "common courtesy" and calls me to ask if I want something. I ask for some egg drop soup and he says he also ordered some Szechuan Pork.

He gets home and tries the Pork and says "Aw, it's bland." So I ask "It isn't spicy?" He says "No, it has plenty of spicy, it's bland."

So I try some. "I see," I said "It doesn't have much flavor." (Which it didn't and BTW was not spicy,either). And he says "No, it has a lot of flavor, but it's bland." I finished up with "It's a shame it's disappointing."

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1) What does "bland" mean in BP terms? Anyone?

2) Who has something else similar to tell?
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« Reply #1 on: March 21, 2015, 09:47:49 PM »

LOL.  That makes no sense whatsoever.  But yet, in BPD world, it's probably a pretty normal way to think.
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« Reply #2 on: March 21, 2015, 10:17:52 PM »

I think you're on to something here. we need to start a "non-BPD" to "BPD" translation team here. and write a book. it'll be a best seller guaranteed. 
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« Reply #3 on: March 22, 2015, 05:42:25 AM »

So

1) What does "bland" mean in BP terms? Anyone?

Maybe he meant, it's nothing special like he was imagining or hoping it would be?  Lacks in uniqueness, doesn't stand out, not very pizzazzy, just rather bland.
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« Reply #4 on: March 22, 2015, 02:15:35 PM »

So

1) What does "bland" mean in BP terms? Anyone?

Maybe he meant, it's nothing special like he was imagining or hoping it would be? 

That one is probably right. He imagines things are supposed to be a certain way and gets overly disappointed when they aren't. I would have given more than just the word "bland" twice, but perhaps he couldn't think of the words he wanted to use.
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« Reply #5 on: March 22, 2015, 02:20:00 PM »

self contradicting... .like their behavior. typical... .
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« Reply #6 on: March 23, 2015, 04:01:07 PM »

That's just hilarious Offroad. I love reading it.

I think Pheobes onto the right answer but wouldn't "boring" have been easier to understand. You're great a dealing with it though and I hope the egg drop soup was worth it.

Thanks for posting it was really wonderful to open up a thread and laugh.

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« Reply #7 on: March 24, 2015, 12:31:58 PM »

 

Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

We need to get one of those balls that you shake and get different answers... .

BPD says something... we shake ball... .and get "the answer... ."   

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« Reply #8 on: March 24, 2015, 12:39:02 PM »

Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

We need to get one of those balls that you shake and get different answers... .

BPD says something... we shake ball... .and get "the answer... ."  

Magic Borderline Ball... .I can hear the commercial now... .It keeps it's circular shape just like your arguments! Smiling (click to insert in post)

No matter what answer you get, you're wrong!   Smiling (click to insert in post)

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« Reply #9 on: March 24, 2015, 12:41:44 PM »

Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

We need to get one of those balls that you shake and get different answers... .

BPD says something... we shake ball... .and get "the answer... ."  

Magic Borderline Ball... .I can hear the commercial now... .It keeps it's circular shape just like your arguments! Smiling (click to insert in post)

No matter what answer you get, you're wrong!   Smiling (click to insert in post)

LMAO... .

My side is hurting... .
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« Reply #10 on: March 24, 2015, 02:33:10 PM »

Too funny!
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« Reply #11 on: March 24, 2015, 04:45:54 PM »

Magic Borderline Ball... .I can hear the commercial now... .It keeps it's circular shape just like your arguments! Smiling (click to insert in post)

No matter what answer you get, you're wrong!   Smiling (click to insert in post)

Oh ML, that was great!

"What does bland mean?"  

"Reply hazy, try again."

Or is that "Reply crazy, try again"?
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