T today, T tomorrow, P later this week...

[maxsterling]

She has a T intake appointment today!   

And one with a different T tomorrow!   

P appointment later this week!

and MC on Thursday! 

And just as I was feeling completely at the end of my rope.  The pre-wedding dysregulation continued post wedding, and I felt it was getting harder and harder to bite my tongue.  I've been hoping and praying for someone or something to come along and take her suicide talk and emotional baggage from my hands.  Yesterday was bad.  Last week was bad.  I struggled, finally just finally reached my limit and started simply not answering the phone when she called at work, and climbing back into my hobbies and interests.  I felt I would literally fall apart if I didn't. 

Now I turn it all over to the T. 

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[sweetheart]

... .and started simply not answering the phone when she called at work, and climbing back into my hobbies and interests.  I felt I would literally fall apart if I didn't. 

 

Max this stood out for me because if you're going to stay, the above for me is where it's at, otherwise falling apart is what will happen to you. I came to this forum falling apart emotionally.

No amount of T or P for your wife will help you stop answering your phone, tune back into your life, or put in place healthy boundaries to physically and emotionally protect you.

[formflier]

 

 

Hang in there max. 

Is she talking positively about the T and P appointments?

Is this her first P appointment after the initial intake/meeting?

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[maxsterling]

Yeah, she sounded positive after the T appointment.  She has another appointment with a different T tomorrow, and will then decide which one she likes best.

This will be first P appointment since initial intake. 

I need to take a deep breath.  I have felt like I was her only resource for emotional support for so long, and I just feel drained.  Her getting a new AA sponsor a few months ago helped, but an AA sponsor is not a therapist.  So now during the daily dysregulations, she has someone else to call.   

Interestingly, W's AA sponsee is now in a mental health hospital.  Somehow that triggered W, and in turn triggered me to hear wife talking about struggling with the same exact emotions that I have had to face with my wife's suicide ideation the past year.  W was talking about how her sponsee will not listen to her, will not listen to her doctors, doesn't want to go to therapy, etc... .  and all I could think of was "wow- sounds familiar... ."