Hey there.
I'm concerned about one thing lately. We knew that S7 had attachment issues (having moved 8 times in 7 years, in an out of foster care etc.). He's been living with his dad and me for 9 months now. Things are really getting better for him, as he's in play therapy and a concentration training programme at school. It goes slowly, but it goes the right direction
He had trouble keeping distance with strangers - after the first "hello" he would take them by the hand, want to sit on their lap etc. We figured out a way to interfere with this behaviour. Anyway, a few days ago, SS was playing in the public park next to our garden (20mtrs away from the house) with some children from the block. When he came back he told me about that nice man hanging around there and that he played with him. We talked and talked and he was insisting he "KNOWS" this man after that one day he waved at him and SS waved back. He states that he trusts him, because that day he almost fell into the little river (it hardly covers your feet when you walk through) and the man held him and asked if he was OK. I told him again (after we already had a few talks about this) that it is not OK to talk to strange adults and playing with them is not even an option. There were other kids there, but he prefered to play with that man. Not only had he now clue what I was talking about, but he kept insisting on trusting this man and would even start crying. Since he moved in with us, his BPDm has presented him 4 (or 5?) different men she was in relationships with. This is all he knows - as soon as there is a strange man, they're trustable and body contact is normal then. We're in contact with his therapist and teacher and this kind of network has been pretty helpful so far. They want to pick this topic up in the group again and his T will work on this physical boundary issue again. In the meantime, BPDm has broken up with yet another man SS7 got attached to.
Do yo have any thoughts on this? Any experiences?
