New here ... .Trying to understand why my BPD boyfriend still texts his ex, mother to 2 of his children he still loves her ,wants to marry her all behind my back. I put up with a lot of his BPD traits, this one hurts ! She sent me the messages ... .She has moved on. Says he misses his daughters that's why sent it , heartbroken
Help ? Is this a typical BPD behaviour?
That must really hurt to find out. I'm so sorry
Impulsivity is typical behaviour. Extreme shifts in emotion is typical behaviour. Emotional immaturity is typical behaviour. So if that applies to your situation, you could surmise it's typical.
But that doesn't really excuse it, or make it fair. No matter how much he misses his daughters, he shouldn't be writing things like that to her. He's pretty much painting her white/idealising her temporarily due to a desire to go back to being with his daughters.
I would be really mad in your situation, honestly. That's such a betrayal.