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Emotional first aid checklist for when she pushes me to the edge
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Lets face it, they have 'pushing our buttons' down to a fine art. In response, I aim to have 'keeping my cool' down to a fine art. So whenever I feel myself getting even the slightest bit upset I will go over my 'Emotional first aid checklist'. This is a quick reminder of all the most important points (for me) that I have learnt here and from other resources that help to calm me and hopefully remove some of the trauma of the situation. I have this list on my phone so can easily excuse myself to go to the toilet and will read it there. By the time I have read through the whole list I usually feel calm and strong enough to face her again. I thought it might be useful to share this with others and maybe you can share if you have something similar.
Here is my 'Emotional first aid checklist':
-Don't JADE.
-Accept the reality that what is, is.
-Accept that your partner has a mental illness.
-Know you have the patience to tolerate the moment. Or the fortnight!
-Do only what is necessary in this moment.
-Focus on effectiveness.
-Don't try to control the situation.
-Be willing not wilful.
-You can't fix this. Step back and ride it out.
-Stop trying to figure out who is right/wrong or what is fair/unfair.
-You are OK and you can do this!
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Yep, this is now going on my phone... .thanks Jacq.
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