s he glad that it's just the two of you for the most part? How's he doing? If I remember correctly, he is aspergers?
He's with me most of the time, correct. He seems to be doing okay for the most part. He hasn't acted or said anything about missing exSO's kids. He seems to be relieved as I am about not having their constant chaos around. And yeah, he's aspergers. It's mild and you don't really see it come out most of the time.
He's also not been real happy with his mom's BF since he moved in. He's been talking about how they fight and saying things that were out of character for him. I knew something was off kilter and it was getting worse. He's also pissed at his mom and feels she teamed up with the BF against him, ignored him to focus on the BF, etc. Some of it I can understand as just jealous and wanting his mom's undivided attention all the time. Some of it though, I can understand as his mom definitely gets snappier when stressed. I can definitely see her acting out towards him.
They just want to be kids, which is hard when there is so much adult stuff going on.
Yeah. I'm working as much as I can to simply my life and by extension his when he's with me. Trying to work in some downtime for us both to just relax, play some, and take it easy. He's reacting very well to the change. Life's been super crazy since february between my breakup, work, moving, and trying to keep S10 out of the drama at my house,and then a few out of town trips I had planned with him. It's very nice for things to finally calm down.
What do you think is going on over at the house? What do you know of the BF?
S10 has now told me it got physical, the BF was chasing them down the driveway, beating on the car door and window and screaming while they fled the house. XW didn't call the cops. Instead she told him to get out ASAP or she would. XW says she won't be there if the now xBF is. He's not staying there now, but his stuff is still there. He's supposedly moving his stuff out this weekend.
I cancelled going to my scouts reunion and am not swapping weekends nows. I'm not comfortable sending S10 to his mom's house with that drama going on over there. XW should have called the cops, had him arrested, and had a no-contact TPO put in place. I did a little bit of Google-Fu on him and he's got past TPO's with other women, the mugshots are online, etc. I haven't told XW about that, though. Not sure I should. I really feel it's sticking my neck in too far to tell her. I need to focus on my kid, maintain the stability and calmer life I've established for me and S10 on my side of things, and let her figure her own problems out herself.