Im sad that it has come to this as I never wanted my boys to have to deal with anything like this. I am so happy though that they are out of that toxic household.
How is your overall perspective? Do you agree you're happier than you are sad?
I can't remember where I found this quote, but I bought the book to find out precisely where in the book the quote was... .
Living in a calm and stable home will give them a better example of normalcy for their own future relationships. So many of us felt we had to stay in a marriage (or do limited parenting) no matter what but sometimes, in cases like ours, that's just not the right thing to do. Nearly 30 years ago the book Solomon's Children - Exploding the Myths of Divorce had an interesting observation on page 195 by one participant, As the saying goes, "I'd rather come from a broken home than live in one." Ponder that. You don't have to feel guilty about ending or reducing the dysfunction. Taking action will enable your lives, or at least a part of your lives, to be spent be in a calm, stable environment - your home, wherever that is - away from the blaming, emotional distortions, pressuring demands and manipulations, unpredictable ever-looming rages and outright chaos.