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« on: June 16, 2015, 09:09:13 PM »

Hi,

I never heard of BPD until my sister said something about "the institute of brain potential" and there was tons of info about all different things... .but on thing about BPD and it kind of fit my GF while both me and GF were looking over the material. Now I'm sure she is either a BPD or a narcissist. I was just trying to help her get a handle on her depression and it opened a can of worms, but it does explain alot.
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« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2015, 02:02:59 AM »

good luck

read read and read some more

hard in the beginning to decide between BPD and npd.

but in time it will become clear.

good luck, youll need it 
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« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2015, 09:47:54 AM »

Hi scoutshonor, 

Welcome aboard. 

What types of characteristics does your girlfriend display that fit with BPD or NPD? 
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« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2015, 10:37:46 AM »

Hi scoutshonor,  

Welcome aboard.  

What types of characteristics does your girlfriend display that fit with BPD or NPD?  

Hi,

She self admits to OCD and anxiety which are real. She explains that control is part of management of both. She seems to have an outside persona that she only wants the world to see. She has an office assistant and has six in 7 years with the position open more than its filled to the point that corporate wont allow her to terminate with out their ok. She seems to have black and white thinking. Mostly she gets upset by "slights" from other people , which she almost 100% internalizes. Lots of tit for tat. She seems to have issues with both parents stemming from childhood and until our relationship (we're 40) havent spoke to her dad(ive brought them back together) We have been together 2 years and i can count 6 or 7 breakups we've had all her starting... .each time i thought it was the end and would start to move on only to be called back in, where i would easily say it was my fault. Then there is the depression that seems to come and go... .the meds restoral and tramadol to sleep, before it was ambian... .and lexapro... .her depression seems better than it was 8 months ago. Early on in our relationship i changed how i delt with her... .it seemed as the littlest thing she would lable confrontation which she said she couldnt deal with, acted as if her father years back physically abused her... .turned out she got in an argument at 18 with him about her stepmom... .they all moved past it except her.She is almost a legal-prescription drug abuser requiring them to sleep.

Other than these small issues she is great!
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« Reply #4 on: June 17, 2015, 11:02:29 AM »

I wouldnt say that BPD or npd is ruining her life but she has an ideal that she seems to chase like a carrot on a stick keeping from being happy... .she seems at times to be happy at others misfortunes and will share these as if they will also make me happy... .i know this one to be true, if everything is ok and there isnt anyone she is upset with then its isnt too long until she will start in on me about something. Ahe used to hold my drinking over top of me, saying she couldnt trust me to say the right things... .i realized she had different rules for me... .ive since quit drinking entirely and am happy about it. She is into physical fitness but is overweight, ive embraced fitness and she seems to hate me because im showing results and the downside is that i was hoping it wouls bring us closer together.
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